was married to Andy. Andy had died about four years
before this incident, at a time when his granddaughter,
Renee, was four months old. Renee had seen pictures
of him and heard the family speak of him, but did not
remember him personally.
remarried and her second husband, Bob, died Jan. 1,
1997. He had been the principal and assistant superintendent
at a school in New York State, so the memorial service
was held in the high school gym.
had turned five years old a month earlier. She referred
her step-grandfather Poppa Bob and had met him on several
occasions. At the funeral, various individuals were
telling stories about Bob and one was speaking at this
was sitting on her mother's lap next to Eleanor when
she smiled and started to wave. Eleanor ignored it,
thinking she was waving at one of the ministers. Renee
turned to her and said, "Poppa Bob waved at me." Later,
in the car, they asked her, "What was Poppa Bob doing?"
She said, "He was talking to Poppa Andy."
the family was startled by this statement, they asked,
"What were they talking about?" Renee said, "Poppa Bob
was telling Poppa Andy about me, because he's starting