wife's brother was terminally ill, my wife and her sister
were with him. They stayed with him all day Friday and Saturday
morning as he was fighting for his life. Trying to comfort
him, my wife told him on Friday not to be afraid and to go
toward the light, but he became very agitated at the suggestion,
so she quit saying anything like that.
communicating with her by squeezing her hand. During their
Saturday morning visit, it was clear to both sisters that
he was concentrating on them and on what they were saying.
But at about ten a.m. he began to focus on the ceiling above
the bed and away from his sisters.
pads were leaning against the wall behind my wife and her
sister. They were to be laid on the floor at night to protect
a patient if he fell out of bed. The pads had been leaning
against the wall all morning and the previous day, since they
were only used at night, and they had not moved an inch.
brother was extremely close to his father. He lived his entire
life with his parents and
never married. When my wife noticed that her brother had begun
focusing on the ceiling, she asked him what he was looking
at and if he saw their dad, who had died many years earlier.
Just then, one of the pads fell away from the wall. It did
not slide down the wall but fell away in a forward motion
as though it had been pushed.
startled my wife and her sister. Her brother moved his gaze
back from the ceiling to his sisters, in the direction of
the safety pad that had fallen. Then, slowly, he looked back
again toward the empty side of the hospital room, and my wife
asked him a second time, "What do you see? Do you see
our dad in this room?" At that instant, the second safety
pad fell forward, away from the wall. This really shook the
two women up. Both pads had fallen from their place next to
the wall at the exact moment my wife asked the question, "Do
you see our dad in the room?"
this second incident my wife's other sister came into the
room, and their brother tried very hard, with his frail voice,
to tell them that he loved them. When this second sister bent
down to kiss him, she said, "He looks at such peace now."
Later, a nurse came into the room, and the women were asked
to take a break. When they returned, they discovered that
their brother had died while they were gone.
the pads fell, he was noticeably calmer, and seemed to have
lost his resistance to going toward the light. Since he died
only minutes afterward, I suspect that he saw his dad in that
room and was ready to give up his physical life. It is also
significant that he died ten years to the day from the time
his father died, and at the same time of day.
person sees something like this we might chalk it up to stress
or hallucination, but my wife's sister was with her and saw
the same phenomenon.
April 6, 2007